Good Mom Rules: Ditch Mom Guilt & Find Your Happy

I have never experienced such deep compassion and love for myself until reading this book
I received this book in the mail last night. I tried to read but was tired and figured this would be like every other book I have purchased, only reading half and then putting it back on the shelf. Its not that I dont like the book I buy, I just that I have struggled to concentrate on a book and have been a slow reader since childhood. This morning, I picked the book up and started to read and before I knew it, I was on the last chapter feeling a little emotional that I was done reading. Not for any sense of accomplishment (although I do celebrate that I finished a book, and in one sitting is unheard of in my life), but because I didn’t feel alone anymore. I understand what she means when she says to find a community. When you try to go through trial alone, you tend to feel like your the only one. Not that I want moms to feel guilt, but knowing I was not the only one who suffered from this was encouraging and gave me hope. My children are grown and gone. My youngest is 27 years old and I knew I felt guilt for my lack of parenting skills as they were young but I didn’t understand the depth of it and what it was secretly doing to my self esteem. I wish I would have had this book when my kids were little however the story of the grief counselor on page 17 helped me to understand that even if I did, it is now that I needed it the most. She provide tools, a support community and coaching. I cant tell you how many times I have finished a book and tried to implement what it taught only to feel frustrated and more depressed that I didn’t have the skills to be consistent what I learned. I know now the importance of having people in your life that lift you up, you can learn from and support you is 100% vital when it comes to healing past wounds. I think she said somewhere that when the wound is ready to heal, the trigger will present itself. Mine has been presenting itself for years and I can finally see it and realize that I need to give it attention. WOW! I would recommend this book to every single mother on the face of this earth, no matter how old your children are and even if you don’t feel guilt. I cant describe it, its just a deeper level of understanding and I feel released from things I didn’t even know I was feeling guilty about. This book helped me to have compassion for myself that I did the best I could with the knowledge I had at the time and even thought I didn’t know how to be a “good mom” (or anything about parenting for that matter), I knew one thing…….. I loved them with all of my heart and did everything I could to give them a different experience than I had. Thank you Alysia and Melanie for your willingness to be vulnerable in an area that no mother wants to feel like a “failure” in.

Normalizing healing
Wow – this book speaks to the core of what so many suffer with silently. Thank you for granting readers permission to feel and forgive.Highly recommend for every parent! I’m ordering for my daughter in law now.

Easy to read, I felt as if Alysia Lyons was having a conversation with me. As a Grandma being a co-parent of my grandchildren I had the useless feelings of not being good enough, failure, not worthy ect rising up. Loved the use of the letters of G.U.I.L.T. to help remove those feelings. As I read this book I was reminded that often guilt is what other people make us feel. Already using the suggestions and I already feel calmer dealing with Miss 10 and Master 7 (He has ADHD which adds a lot of pressure) Highly recommend this book for first time mums, long time mums and ones like me doing it second time around with the next generation.